On this episode of the show I’m interviewing Dallas Amsden!
About a decade ago, Dallas Amsden was diagnosed with major depression and severe anxiety disorder. The way he describes it is: he just felt like he was “losing” at life. He has since developed a playbook to get back to that sense of winning his days. Now, he coaches and empowers other men in business — what he calls “Dad-preneurs” — to also gamify their lives and score strategic, daily points, both personally and professionally, so that they can Live 4 The Win. Dallas is a motivational speaker, author of the Power Playbook , host of the Defeating Depression podcast, and your coach to help you Live 4 The Win
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Hello, and welcome to STL active St. Louis is premier health and wellness podcast. STL active aims to give listeners in the St. Louis area the information they need to succeed and progress with their health and fitness. This podcast is brought to you by StLouispt.com and hosted by Doctor of Physical Therapy, Greg Judice. Hey guys, it’s Dr. Greg, owner and physical therapist at Judice sports in rehab. On this episode of the show, I’m interviewing Dallas Amsden. Dallas is a life and performance coach and owner of live for the wind coaching. He helps men in business gamify their lives to score strategic points in their personal and professional lives to live for the win. Dallas is also the host of the defeating depression podcast, which can be found on all major podcast platforms. In this episode, Dallas shares his story and his journey from losing to winning. Without further ado, let’s get into the interview with Dallas. Today on the stL active podcast, we have Dallas Amsden, Dallas, thank you so much for being here, man. I’m excited to be here. Thanks. This is awesome. This is awesome. So you guys will hear another interview where I was recorded on Dallas podcast. That’s right. And I’ll send you guys a link to that in Dallas, tell us a little bit about yourself why you’re here what you do. Sure, give us the background. We could be here forever if I talk about my background. It’s just fun for me to I should just say thank you again because this is fun for me. Usually I’m the one giving the interview so to be to be the one getting asked all the questions is a new experience for me. But this is great. So I I was born and raised here in the St. Louis area. And my parents were actually pastors so I’m the son of a preacher man and raised here went to college at Webster University got my degree in musical theater actually, which you know, that’s you, you can really do a lot with that degree. I was always a song and dance man. And then in 2003, after my wife and I got married, we decided in 2005, we actually moved out to Los Angeles. And we wanted to live in LA and be a part of the industry at the time I was acting and performing and so as she when we were there, things in life as they often tend to do started shifting for us and we realized that neither of us necessarily wanted to be an actor, especially on on screen. So we we started to shift our focus and I started writing a little bit more I was also doing stand up comedy, so I was still performing. And I actually thoroughly enjoyed the stand up comedy scene. Enjoy enjoyed that process, but what was happening to me and This is so for those of your listeners who don’t know the podcast I host that you came on it’s called defeating depression. Well, there’s a reason I host a podcast called defeating depression. And it was while we were in Los Angeles, I started to spiral downward and there was a lot of reasons for that there was delays on some things I was hoping for. There were some detours to my dream, there were some flat out denials. And I just kind of say those days kind of spiraled me downward into depression, delays, denials, detours, and, and things started getting darker for me and my wife, being the loving woman that she is, was getting very concerned about some of the behaviors, some of the patterns, there was a lot of destructive eating a lot of destructive drinking patterns. And never to the point where never to the point where she was concerned that you know, I needed to go into a rehab program or anything, she could tell that I was sedating that I was doing something that I just simply didn’t want to feel and she He asked me if I was depressed. And at that time in Los Angeles, I said no. And she wanted me to see a therapist. And I said, that’s so cliche for someone involved in the entertainment industry to want to go to therapy. And we had a particularly Dark Knight, can I get wrong with you, man? I mean, all right. So let your listeners know how quickly we get her on here before Okay. All right, great. I don’t want to you know, I don’t want them to be like, Good Lord, why did he bring? Why did he bring Dallas on? So there was one particularly bad night where I was it was just all existential questions. Why am I here? What is the purpose of my life, all of that fun stuff. And, and I started cutting and I actually held a knife to my throat. And the next day, my wife walks in, and I was working. So my day job at that point was I was an apartment manager for a pretty large building. 60 units 100 and 120 some odd tenants in the building. And we lived in the building where we manage so my office was connected to our apartment. And so when I would have panic attacks or things like that, I would just close the leasing office door and go and lay down. Well, that particular day after that, after that dark night, my wife walked into my office, from our apartment and she hands me a list of therapists and she’s like you, these are five people, I’ve checked them. They hit our insurance you have to make a choice of which of these five people you’re going to see. I’m not going to do this again. Because it was obviously scary. Sure, for her something that she’d never been through obviously, no, neither of us had and and for me, when people look at me they don’t think oh, that’s a guy who deals with with depression. Well, it doesn’t have a face it doesn’t have a face. And and I’m doing stand up comedy and I’m making big crowds of people at the you know, the Hollywood improv or the haha cafe in North Whatever, wherever I’m making them laugh. And so you think, who is that guy that he’s funny, and He’s charming, and he’s always got a smile. And so it just didn’t register to people. And we were involved in our church there. And people at our church weren’t aware of it. But I was in definitely deep dark. The deep dark place, DDP is what I would call it sometimes. So So I began to see a therapist. And long story short, it didn’t really help at first, and then when I first went in, and I said, Look, this is a cliche, I don’t even want to be here. He asked me all the questions and he said, Man, you’re you’re scoring in the 99th percentile on major depression, and you’re scoring in the 95th percentile on severe anxiety disorder. So he, he was able to diagnose me we, I also started on medication for a period of time. And the first medication I was on it didn’t work. And so I I always am. I never talked about which ones I was on, but they certain ones don’t work for certain people. And whether it’s an SSRI or snri, whatever it may be. And so one of the biggest things I always tell people is if you are on medication, make sure to keep talking with your doctor about it. And if you’re taking it, just set it and forget it. Right, exactly. Because if it gets worse, and and also, I’m also very cautious when I find out that a general practitioner has diagnosed an antidepressant and that someone’s not doing talk therapy, because they it’s, it’s those coupled together really well. And so rather than just having your GP die, you know, hand you a prescription. It’s always important to make sure to get that cognitive therapy as well, that talk therapy. I think that’s where the biggest gains are made, just found solutions with my family and clients. And they always mentioned that that is where the biggest gains are made. Of course the medications help but some of them don’t know. Right, and you got to find the right one and Right able to monitor that with your CBT therapists. Yep. You know, it, it has to happen. You have to have a combination. Yep. And so I was in a, I was in a place where the, the medication I was on actually caused me to gain weight. And so I gained a lot of weight. Well, that didn’t help that I was also. And all of this is covered on my podcast, I talk regularly about my story. So it might seem like I’m kind of flipping with it now. It’s because because I’m past it, in a lot of ways. I mean, I still I still deal with depressive episodes, for sure. And I’m still the person who, if you ever see me in a restaurant, my back is never to the front door, like I have my eyes on the exits. And I’m just one of those personality types. But what happened was in the when I was first on medication and started to see some results start to happen. I was able to kind of get back into my game a little bit. It was like I discussed this actually with someone recently on my podcast is the medication worked as a stopgap it allowed me to like, plug the dam that was leaking long enough for me to go, Okay, I can, I can breathe now. Now I can take a break. And now I can start working to actually repair the cracks. And so when that happened, and again, I had gained a lot of weight. And there were still there were still all the frustrations but the medication helped me kind of work through that and start to get my life back in order start to eat healthier again, start to exercise again more frequently. And then also, I I’m a I’m a student for life. So I was also reading a ton of books on depression, reading a ton of information on anxiety, finding out what I could and weren’t just letting life happen to you. You’re not alone. Yeah, seeing what you can do to help yourself and I’ll be honest, I had a dream when I had this phase Have and this would have been in late 2011. I had this phase where it was constantly What am I on this earth to do? And I had this one particular dream one night. And it was one of those things where I woke up from the dream going. That’s it. That’s my purpose for life. Talk about cliche, right? I know, I know. It is a cliche, I’m just messing with no, it totally is a cliche, though, man because it’s, I had this dream where and I’m not going to get into all the details of the dream. But it was basically like a montage of people where you would just see their faces on a video. And it was I’m, I’ve been a carpenter for 40 years or I’m a single mom working as a Night Nurse I’m of this I’m at that it was just all these people, different ages, different races. And they were saying that they were defined not by their politics, not by their economics, but by their principles by their ethics, and that they wanted a voice outside of the normal. The normal 1% 99% this that in the other And I woke up, and I told my wife about the dream. And I was and it was one of those dreams, right? I had the goose bumps all over me. And I told my wife about the dream. And of course, in her mind, she’s like, great, my depressed husband has another creative idea, which will only spiral him downward into further depression. And so I sat on it for a while, and I just kept thinking, what could this be? And I was realizing it was a voice for it was a voice for the voiceless for people who wanted to express who they really are outside of their classifications. And, and so I sat down one night, and within 45, it was literally the next evening, I sat down and within within 90 minutes, I had typed out 10 chat, an outline for 10 chapters of the book. And it was like this crystal clear picture that came to me, but I still had work on me. So what I had at the time was the seed of an idea. And then over over the last multiple years now it’s grown and grown And grown and it’s developed into what is my coaching business now. And it what I found in my own life was that I felt like I was losing at life. I felt like I’m not scoring in in ways that are measurable. Yes, I was having some success in business at that point. Yes, I was getting the awards, and receiving some accolades and getting little minor pieces of traction here and there. But in general, my depression was fueled by this idea that I was losing at life. And over the last couple of years, I have I have polled hundreds of entrepreneurs, as well as people inside of like depression groups in Facebook and said, What do you deal with? Well, they, it always comes down to one of four or a combination of one of four things, and I call it the fail factors. And it fail is an acronym FA L and it’s either fatigue Think of this in terms of like a small business owner. All right, or an entrepreneur easy to do. Yeah, fatigue. Anxiety is a, the eye is for inner voice. It’s that negative self talk that so many of us do. And the L is for lack of specific skills, they literally lack specific skills to grow their business. So it may be someone who has, who needs to be doing more marketing has no idea what to do. And so then what they do is because they lack a specific operative skill, they then tell themselves a story which begins that inner voice, which brings their anxiety up and it increases their fatigue. So fatigue, anxiety, inner voice, lack of skills, absolutely all work together. They all work together, as you’re telling this I’m picturing. Oh, dang. Yeah. Right. You’re telling my story. Right. Well, and, and I so I did a I did a survey and I did a poll about about two years ago. And fatigue was like 86% The respondents and I had hundreds of respondents, 86% of them said fatigue, anxiety was one of the top ones to that was like 72%. Now, inner voice, there was several said things like thoughts of unworthiness, thoughts of negativity, so I just kind of was able to lump quite a few of those other symptoms, but then not knowing what to do in their business. That was a huge one as well. That was like 59%. And so these were the four big ones that I was like, Okay, this is what we’re dealing with. And so we tell ourselves, things like, I’m not qualified. Like I’m a total imposter. we tell ourselves things like, yeah, I have no reason to be here in this game, or I’m completely overwhelmed. There’s so many things I have to do should do want to do need to do, you know, all the to dues. And then we also, we also find out we’re not really getting traction, we’re just spinning our tires, and a lot of area so I’m spinning my tires and I might get a little traction in my business for a little bit. But when I do that, when my relationships are suffering, those key relationships, whether it be a spouse, significant other children, whatever, we also then tell ourselves that or we get, we try and advance our relationship at the at the loss of maybe our physical health for a little bit period of time. Or if I can just push through these strategic business goals, then I’ll get on my diet at the beginning of the new year. Yes, then that right doesn’t quite work out doesn’t work out because it’s not balanced. That’s exactly right. It’s a big push in one area. Yep. And everything else falls off. Yep. And so so the, the philosophy here is that we we need to overcome the four fail factors, but we can’t just limit it to one area of our life, we have to, and so I use a sports metaphor, we got to move the whole team down the field. You know, an offensive line isn’t at the 20 yard line, when a running back is starting from the 30 yard line. And the whole team is moving down the field at the same time and so So, so that that team for me is I call them your four macros. Alright. So in in the nutritionist would talk about our physical our food macros and those are as you as you know, they’re your proteins, they’re your healthy fats and your healthy carbs, or your non healthy healthy healthy healthy fats and carbs, right. Oil versus, you know, certain bad oils versus good oils. But, but if you have, if you have in your life, those macros in the proper proportions, proteins, fats and carbs in the proper proportions, you will nourish your body in the same way we need to nourish our life. And so for me, the four macros of our lives is our spiritual life, our physical body, our relational selves, and then our professional world. So spiritual, physical, relational, and professional. And if we’re, if we are fueling those the right way. Then what we get We get healthy growth in our life and healthy growth in our life where I’m where I’m gaining the right insights from my family, in my business where I’m gaining the right, where I’m doing the right intention in my relationships. In my body, when I’m moving the whole team down the field, it overcomes the fatigue, because I’m fueling myself properly. It overcomes the anxiety, because I know my intention and there’s, I can’t produce a real plan in action. It’s a real plan. I think that’s from my perspective, the biggest thing is, yeah, there’s there’s 16,000 things to do. Yeah. How do I do all of them? You can’t, you can’t, you can’t, that’s the thing. And so, one of the first things you have to do is you have to dump it all out. You have to be like, okay, here’s everything I want to do or should think I should do. And then you have to kind of categorize and then you have to prioritize right. And the way to prioritize and this is a hopefully this is hitting your your listeners in a good way. The way to prioritize His profit focus, or what I call ROI, focus. So ROI, we know his return on investment. But I’m not talking about profit, purely in the professional sense. Sure. So a profit for me is gaining a return on something I’ve invested. Absolutely. So I want a profit in my relationship with my wife. Well, that means I have to invest in that relationship a little bit. And again, not just money, money right now it’s time it’s it’s words of encouragement and love to my children. Every day, I leave them note cards. It’s like, Hey, buddy was thinking about you this morning. So they eat they they’re eating breakfast and they see their note cards from daddy in the morning because I’m investing in that relationship, teaching my kid to ride a bike, I’m investing in that relationship. In my own physical body. I want to see a return on investment. And so, so while I was doing during my depression, my greatest portion of my depression A few years ago, when I was on medication, I was gaining all that weight. I was I was fueling my body in all the wrong ways. And I saw return on that investment in weight gain and less energy, more fatigue, all of that stuff. And so now I’m eating a more paleo focused diet. I still like my chocolate chip cookies. Right? But I’m eating a little more paleo focused diet. I’m doing CrossFit. And I’m usually there four to five days a week, doing CrossFit. And I’m seeing massive results just in the last five, six months of doing CrossFit and working with that team there. And don’t get me started on CrossFit because we’re, we’re kind of our own little religious group. It’s weird. It’s kind of a weird group. Hey, you know what, I’ve heard it referenced as a cult, but it’s a cult that actually helps people and that’s true. It’s not really it’s not. It’s not. It’s just a very focused group of people. And they’re very passionate about what they do, and they’re gonna they’re gonna do it. That’s it. Yeah. So, from a therapy standpoint, sometimes that’s frustrating because you can Slow down. Right. But that being said, talk about people that are going to do their homework. That’s true. Yeah, they are motivated, that’s true and awesome people to work with, because I know they’re gonna put in the work to get back to Revit. And, and so that’s because they want to get a return on their investment. And that’s the idea is, I want ROI in all four of those macros, I want. But the only way I’m going to get a really great ROI in my professional macro. And there’s a reason I listed them, the way I did is spiritual, physical, relational, professional. In that order. I have to take care of my internal self and my physical self first, so that I can have the time to invest in the relationships, and then go and from there, I win in all of these areas of life. And then I go and I crush it in business. And then now you know that these other three year are locked in, that’s it so it’s easy to focus and be an awesome business owner, some employee or whatever you are, yep. your professional life is going to be Way beyond what it could be because the other three areas are that’s it so firm. Yep. And you know, you know what it’s like first thing in the morning to get. And so so what I do is I actually have a playbook that I follow, and there’s certain points I have to score every day. So I talked earlier about this idea that I was losing it life. Well, the best way to win is not to just go I feel like I’m doing better. That’s so a morphus. And it’s not, it’s not metric based. It’s not. And I’m not even really like guessing game. It’s a guessing game. So. So it’s totally dependent on your emotions of that day. And if you don’t feel like it, and if you happen to deal with mental health issues, then what you’re going to run into is you’re going to run into the struggle of today. I don’t feel like it. So I lost today. What does that mean? Well know what what if I actually have a playbook and there are points that I have to score every day, and I can track on Monday I scored 12 points Wednesday I scored eight Why? Oh, from this week to this week, I scored 78 points versus last week I scored 89 points Why? You know, and I can actually track and examine. And I often say this to my podcast listeners is, then I don’t have to invest in the emotions, I can investigate the reasons if I have numbers in front of me. And so I figured out a way to have a playbook where I was scoring points, and all of those for macros, and increasing on a daily basis in certain ways that were strategic to get me toward my 30 day, 90 day, and one year goals targets I should say, I don’t even say goals. I say targets. Because a goal you can go like, ah, maybe maybe, but a target, you’re like, Did I hit that target? Definitely what I’m going for exactly. Well, you know, from when you were a pitcher to get a strike, did I get a ball that I’ve walked that person is very black and white, it’s very black and white. And so with a target so I set targets and I know if I hit them or not. And that’s I have a problem with goal setting. Yeah, not just because it’s difficult, but because well, you should set it up. higher than what you can really achieve. And like, what does that mean? Now you’re saying I’m going to fail, right? And that’s frustrating. And so I like the target because you can have 12 targets rather than having a goal, which is arbitrary. That’s a made up. Yeah. So I really like that. And that’s, that’s an interesting way to put it, because I’ve never really thought about it because I have my patients set goals. Yeah. When they walk in the door, I want to know what they want to be able to do when they’re done. Right. And if their goal is unrealistic, right, I help them adjust their goal. That’s exactly right. Which means that it’s really a target and not a goal. That’s right. And and, you know, to with, with physical therapy, you know, that if somebody says, Well, I want to increase my goal is to increase flexibility. What does that mean? What does that mean? versus you’re like, Hey, we need to get five degrees more in this in your shoulder rotation, whatever it might be for you. But the thing is for them then, if that’s their goal, quote, unquote, well, I want to get more flexible. Okay. Well, then your targets are, I need you to do 10 minutes of stretching five days a week. Did you hit those targets this week? Well, I only did two, okay, then you didn’t hit the targets? Is that target too hard? Do we need to, you know, do we need to make a more realistic target for you? Or instead of doing it at 9pm at night, where you’re failing? What’s, what’s it to do? Maybe 10 minutes of stretching right after your lunch break before you go back to your afternoon, you know, you then help readjust the targets in a way where they go, Oh, well, that’s a target, I can hit more frequent, frequently. And so. So for me, the fail factors, you know, obstacles are an opportunity to learn, you know, and so when I don’t hit my numbers, when I don’t hit my targets for the week, I can go back and go, you know, and I realized this when I not not to talk too much CrossFit here. But I usually go to the 5am CrossFit class. And yes, that’s a little freaky, too. It’s like super early in the morning, but what I was finding was my other morning ritual thing. Were when I first started CrossFit, I was going to a 6am class. And when by the time I got home at 715 730, my kids were up, it’s time for breakfast. It’s time for this time for that. So unless I woke up even earlier, I didn’t get my time to do my spiritual practices and my routine. So that’s why I started doing the 5am class so that when I’m home by 615, they’re not up yet. And I can do a couple other things for other things, right, your morning routine, right? We did, and hit those targets. That’s it. And that falling behind in certain areas. That’s it. And so when I first did it, I was falling behind. And I was and so I had to investigate. Why am I falling behind? And I was like, oh, what if I switched and started doing the 5am class? Well, the moment I did that, I saw the change. And I was like, that’s more effective. Do I like waking up at 420 in the morning? No, no, I don’t, because I want to be up till 10 at night with my wife and I have no energy by that point in the evening. But, but, but doing that allowed me to get my wins faster and earlier in the day. So make sense. Yeah. I like it. Yeah, that’s very good. So one thing that you had mentioned is when we were talking before the episode was your target is those dad printers? Yeah. So let’s kind of equate some of the mental health work you do into the physical side right? I know that that’s one of your your was it was the four macros right? Right. Okay. So the physical health has to be there but how do they How do they relate from the mental side to the physical side? Sure. Well, the way I say it is your body. It’s your access point to the world. And if that is not working for you, your your physical body if you don’t have the energy to make it through your day, then when you get when you get home at six o’clock at night, and your kids need your energy for a little bit dad printers, the kids need the energy and I don’t know you know, my kids are nine six into right now. If I come in and have to have no and I have absolutely no energy for them, then that relationship deposit suffers. And I don’t make that intentional deposit there. If I’m in a meeting, and my mind is drifting because I’m on a sugar low from the high carb, you know, pasta lunch that I had, that’s a problem. So how do I feel myself in such a way as a dad printer that I can that I have the energy to actually go out and do the work? You know? Let’s talk about football here for a second. So the linemen have a different diet than the wide receivers Sure. And the quarterback has a different diet than you know them Sure. Yeah. Each in that he’s got their own. They’ve got their thing tailored to their macros for what they need, right? Yeah. So what you when they do that they have to find out what they need. So, physical therapist, your your family physical life is going to look different than mine as a coach, or mine as a coach is going to look different than a bankers or lawyers or this or that, you know, we all need, we all need to be powerful in the way that we need to be like a Olympic power lifter looks very different than Olympic track star. Absolutely, you know, and there’s a reason they have to be powerful for what they need to do. And so I think one of the first questions you have to ask yourself is, where are my Where do I need to have the most power so that I can, quote, train off field for that. That way, when you step onto the field of your profession, you’re powerful for what you need to be powerful for. And that brings me to setting a priority, right? Yes, we were talking about that earlier is like identifying those priority areas. Yeah. And obviously, we have our four macros, but there’s more than that, right? Because there’s 20 people that you need to maintain a relationship. That’s right, and your job requires more than just showing Going up. And so there’s a lot into, hopefully, there’s a lot that goes into each of those things. And so yeah, prioritizing my day is one of the most stressful things to me. Yep. And usually it just evolves into, well, I got this huge list, I’ll just start at the top. Right. And that’s obviously not the way to go about it. Um, so, you know, kind of equate that to some of my clients. They have pain. Yep. Why would they do these five exercises, when these are the ones that actually treat the pain? Sure. They don’t know any better. Right? And so my job is to educate them. But from a business owner or a someone dealing with mental health issues. Are there are there strategies to better prioritize your life? Yes. And so, and I briefly had said it earlier. So obviously, we first start with just like a brain dump. But what I do is within the playbook, we actually take the time in the first week to say Where do you want to In three years, what does that look like? And that’s a very emotional thing is like my three year vision. Think of it. Think of it in the way JFK said, By the end of this decade, we’re going to put a man on the moon. All right, that was his dream that he put out there. And his vision for the future that was this positive bright vision for the future. But then what they had to do is they had to start coming up with missions. So Apollo nine did way more than Apollo one did. Sure. But they said here’s what I need to do in the in the next mission to get to that vision fulfilled. All right. And so same thing we start out with this three year passion. I want to be out of debt I want to be and it’s non metric base, the best physical shape of my life. I want my relationship to be on fire. It’s just more more artistic words, where we’re doing the creative side of the brain and then we look out and say, Okay, then what? If that’s your three year dream? What’s your one year vision? 365 days from now? What is it? What do you want that to look like in your body in your spirit? Life in your relationships and in your professional life. Does that mean 10 more clients per month? Does that mean? whatever whatever those metrics may be? Depending? Does that mean fashioner? Depending right, that macro is and the truth, I have a different target. Exactly. And it could be. Honestly, I’ve talked with people who are like, I haven’t had sex with my wife for six weeks. Okay, how often? Do you want to have sex with your wife? Well, at least once a week, Okay, great, then is that where you want to be in a year? Then what does that look like in the next 90 days for you to start to not just ask for it, but to begin to deposit into that relationship in a way where that’s going to be the fruit in a year, you know? So again, it’s all ROI sort of stuff. But we get very strategic of having them work backwards from the end goal to what it looks like today. Does that make sense? It does. It’s very difficult. Very difficult, very difficult. But and I don’t think that that has to be the way you do it. I don’t think enough times arbitrary. That’s right. And I don’t think we’ve spent enough time planning. And so the other thing too, and I’ll just show you this on my calendar here is every night at the same time, I have an alarm go off at 9:20pm. Can you see what that says? Set tomorrow’s intention at 9:20pm every night set tomorrow’s intention. And I go into my playbook plan out. That’s it. I go into my playbook and I say what are the three keys that have to be done tomorrow? And if they’re not done tomorrow, I won’t get them done, then that means I won’t hit my target for this week, which means I won’t hit my quarterly macro or my quarterly, you know, mission 90 day mission. And so it’s it’s that idea of an ounce of prevention. saves a pound of cure. Talk about healthcare. Yeah, exactly. And it’s and so the same works in our world. If we don’t want the tires to spin out of control, or too many plates to get going. Then we probably prioritize on a daily basis, and it literally takes me 10 minutes, if that five to seven, usually, where I’m like, Well, I know what I need to do this week. And then on Sunday, whatever I always do is I always I always go away for about 45 minutes to an hour by myself. I look at the the highlights of last week I look at the bloopers of the last week. Again, sports metaphor for the playbook that I teach people. And then I go through and I say, Okay, now I’m going to review my 90 day targets and say, What do I need to accomplish this next this upcoming week? I set my big game plan for the week. That’s not a daily plan. It’s just like, I need to hit these four or five big things. that informs my my reassessing your quarterly goals every every week and you’re reassessing your weekly goals every day. That’s right. And it’s literally it’s just a small it’s an hour, usually hour at most on Sundays, but it’s usually 10 minutes in a day. Okay, where I’m reassessing, but I do it the night before, because I need to hit the track running right, you know, I need to do it in the locker room. It’s so it’s more draining in the morning hits, and you got to get to CrossFit. So there’s no time to waste. I don’t have time to think about oh wait, what do I need to do today? No, I already know I look at my book and I’m like these are the three things that are going to happen. And after I get home and shower get the kids to school baba baba baba Sure, hit the morning. I’m going to crush those usually before noon, and then I reassess the afternoon what else needs to happen now? Awesome. So so with using the playbook, how do people get started with you? Right? How do they know that they need to work with Dallas? Well, you just they just need to know they need to work with Dallas. I would so what I would say is and I’m not limited to dad printers, that’s who I work best with. But I’m actually working with two different women right now as well coaching them, but it’s that person who wants to win. And so so with the four macros before fail factors, I teach people how to live for the win, got and so the number four my coaching is called Live for the number four live for the win. And you can find out more about it at live for the wind calm. I’m currently so there is I’m doing one on one console free consultations with people who are interested in having a quick little, hey, let’s talk about your targets, you know, what’s your big fail factors that you’re seeing? And how can I help you overcome something this quarter. And so we’re doing one on one free consultations. The other thing too, is actually having an E course. That is a 90 day It comes with a power playbook. And it’s an online course where it’s 30 minutes a day of training for the first eight, there’s eight modules in it. And it’s an online course where they can watch it at their own pace, they can learn to start scoring their own game, they get into a private Facebook group, and we do like group coaching in there. And that is actually my power playbook calm. So there’s actually a couple there’s like three different ways people can get ahold of me I should just tell them all go to the same site. So So first, my name Dallas, Houston comm m s. d n Dallas like the Texas town, Dallas amazon.com is where people can find my podcast. They can find more information about me information about speaking, information about coaching, all of that consultation, all of that free consultations there. If they want to just go straight for the free consultation, then go to live for the wind calm. And there’s information there at that site. Or if they’re interested in the online course they can just go to my power playbook comm if they want to sign up for that. So there’s multiple ways to actually there’s multiple ways for them to actually reach out to me but I’m on Facebook at Dallas, Amstetten Instagram at Dallas, Amstetten Twitter at Dallas, Amstetten, LinkedIn at Dallas and Austin. I did it all under my name. Amazingly, nobody else had that name, Dallas, Houston. Imagine that. That’s good. It’s good. But my passion is to help people overcome those fatal factors. Right. And you’re obviously passionate about it. I’m passionate about you’ve been there. Yeah. And I think that’s that’s what makes a good practitioner. Yeah. Whether no matter what, you know, I’ve I’ve probably met I don’t know in the last six months, probably three. I’m gonna put air quotes health coaches. Yeah, that are 23 years old or younger and I’ve never had any issues. Sure. Well, what are they? What are they? Why is he his experience? That’s You know why? Why are you doing that? That’s right. Is it just what you think you should do? Like it’s hard to see their value that they’re able to provide compared to what you would be able to from your experiences from your trials, tribulations and experience winning. Yeah. After losing it life, right. Yeah, I definitely didn’t have a great rookie season, but that’s okay. I’m going for a Hall of Fame life there you go with my family and my relationships with my children. And that’s what it’s all about. Exactly. Right. You know, we we use the phrase don’t settle when I was when I was on my show. Yeah. And so you’re basically doing that at this point. Yeah. You didn’t settle for Well, this is my life. Right? You you sought out those things to help you and now you’re out to help others. That’s exactly right. Yeah. I love it. Well, I know just from your story, too. You got into physical therapy because of a sports injury. You know, my therapist started his career as a couples therapist. He wasn’t married, and he didn’t get any. Any people at first. I’m not surprised. But yeah, you, you, you teach what you know. Sure, because you’ve lived it and, and if you’ve lived it successfully, then you can help others live it successful. And that’s what I’m passionate about doing helping people get traction in their business, overcome that fail that inner voice and just say, No, I’m not going to lose any more. I’m gonna win. I’m going to live for the win. Love it. We’ve only got a couple minutes left. Yeah, but I had one other thing that I wanted to ask, please. you’d mentioned before we started recording mindset and overcoming triggers. Yeah, I know that could probably go on for 20 minute conversation and give you a short version, the short version, okay. So there is a there’s terminology. And my part of part of my journey was to discover present moment awareness. And what what a Buddhist may call mindfulness, or Christians would say, you know, Jesus said, Don’t worry about tomorrow, tomorrow has enough problems of its own. So the idea is with present moment awareness, I can’t think of the regrets and the pains of the past. That gives me depression. I can’t think of the anxieties and the fears of the future that gives me the anxiety element of it. Now, that doesn’t mean I don’t plan for the future. But when it comes to when it comes to mindset, related things, the most important thing I can do is live in the present and become what is known as a watchful observer. And I kind of hinted at this earlier when I said when something occurs, the moment I invest in the emotion of it, I’m going to get into the spiral but the moment I stepped Back to just far enough to investigate what’s actually happening. I actually can go okay. So here’s the facts. Here’s my feelings on the facts. Now, how can I change that? How can I shift that story a little bit? Here’s the story. I’m telling myself. Here’s, and there’s a, there’s a tool I, I teach, actually, as part of the power playbook. I call it the adaptability worksheet. And obviously, I like acronyms. Adapt is is a DA PT. So I acknowledge not only what happened, but I acknowledged my belief in my behaviors that follow from it. So something triggers me. Someone says something to me and I go up, that made me believe that I’m worthless. Well, worthless. Dallas wants to eat chocolate chip pancakes, okay. So I acknowledge and I look at my beliefs and my behaviors and say, there they are. And then what I do is I come up with a definitive Why, why do I have to overcome this? And then I leveraged fear what would happen if I wouldn’t overcome it? Acknowledge definitive reason why, then I have to shift into abundance and say no, I can’t overcome this. And here’s why. Because I’m smart, because I’m intelligent, because I’m not reactive. I’m proactive because I’m powerful because I’m God’s child, because whatever it may be, that allows me to go off. Here’s why I can overcome these beliefs and behaviors. And then what I do the other a so acknowledge definitive why and abundance mindset and then P is what I call positive replacement behavior. So if my old behavior is Dallas wants to devour a bunch a stack of pancakes, it pancakes, the the positive replacement behavior is what will I do next time I get triggered like this, rather than going to the pancakes, like go for a walk? Or will I sit down and talk with my wife or will I pray or will I go for a jog or will I do 10 burpees whatever it may be that you’re replacing it with something? Yes, so that the next time the trigger happens, I have a positive Replacement behavior. And then the final thing is transformation. I take a few minutes and I imagine what it looks like when I actually start to lean in that former trigger, so that the next time that trigger happens, I’ve already imagined what success will look like. I’ve already imagined I’m not going to fumble here again. Now I’m going to complete the pass. Now I’m going to get a first down now I’m going to get a touchdown, perhaps. And so I take a few minutes and I actually Brendon Burchard. He’s a high performance coach, he said, one of the things he learned was that the highest performing athletes actually recreate the emotion before they ever step on the field. What will it feel like when I win? What will it feel like when I first step into the arena? What will it feel like when I win the game? What will it feel like when I’m back in the locker room as a champion, second advanced version of visualization, that’s it. Yeah. And so the same thing in my life, something triggered me my kid triggered me, made me yell made me do this. I don’t want to do that again. What’s gonna happen the next time they do that and then I take just a couple minutes Single, Ah, that’s gonna feel powerful the next time I do it the right way so that when the trigger occurs again, I’m mindful of what I want to do differently. Love it. So my favorite part of the whole thing is to step back and investigate before you invest. That’s it, right? Because you’re if you get invested, you have to go through the all. Click Yeah, right. So Exactly. Step back and investigate and see if it’s worth an investment. Yeah, because if it’s not, it was just like, I’m good, right? I’m just gonna step away from this, right. But if you’re, once you get into the rabbit hole, you got to go all the way down, you got it, you got to follow that trail to where it leads, but, and sometimes you do follow that trail. And then what you do is when you come out of it, you go, Oh, I don’t want to do that again. So now I’m going to investigate it. But the more you learn to investigate, the more, the more likely you are to be able to preemptively investigate the first couple times you’re going to slide down the hole, sure. But the more you start to realize that’s a hole That’s a whole I’m coming up on a hole, I’m coming up on a hole, then you can actually begin to get really pre emptive. In those moments. There are things that used to trigger me that don’t even affect me anymore. And it’s a form of cognitive behavioral therapy, you know? And so that’s actually how I developed the adapt was with my therapist. I showed him my worksheet and he was like, dude, you’re figuring it out. You got it? Yeah, yeah. So yeah, it was good. Okay, cool. Anything else you want to share with the listeners? I want them to win. Whether it’s whether it’s physical or mental or emotional, I’m, I think we are seeing the effects of people who are droning out on life and disconnecting from their emotions, disconnecting from what drives their passions, and they’re okay with settling in for less than their actual potential. And they settle into a perceived maximum potential and they say, this is it. My mind 70% is now my new perceived 100%. Gotcha. And I, I want people to realize that they are capable of growth, they’re capable of more where they are today is not where they have to be tomorrow or even a year from now, they can actually make progress. And if I can help them make progress, I know you feel that same way in your physical therapy practice, where they think their mobility or their range of motion or their pain level is today, you know, you can see on the other side of it and say, let me help you get to the other side. I’m just as passionate about that with our mindset and with our execution. So if I can help them live for the win, I want them to because they are capable of massive growth. That is awesome, powerful. I love it. Thanks, man. This has been Dallas Amstetten. You can find him at Dallas ams.com, a Ms. DN. I think that’s all we got for today. That’s it. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you, brother. I appreciate it. And yeah, we’ll see you around. 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